Throughout life, you will be subjected to situations that may cause you to feel anxious or nervous, and the key to success is dealing with these feelings in a healthy and productive way. Below we’ve provided you with five different techniques to take turn negative feelings into confidence.
- Stop the Story Telling – The human brain is constantly working to help you solve problems, whether they be large or small. By working through issues your brain creates scenarios to minimize danger and maximize reward. This means that for your brain to find an optimal path to success it must run through all of the possible scenarios that lead to different outcomes. If you’re able to recognize this process, the best thing for you to do is find the humor in it. It’s imperative that you realize job interviews are not life or death situation, and that no matter what the actual outcome, other opportunities will present themselves.
- Return to Your Best -Before you go to the interview, maybe the night before, take a few minutes to search for that feeling that you get when you’re most alive, and optimistic. Two things happen when you can get yourself to this place; you use everything you’ve got in the moment, so all the skills, and experience you have, come to light, and you don’t let anxiety get in the way of your confidence. Remember this feeling for when you’re sitting in the office, waiting for your name to be called. This state of mind will allow you to feel whole and resourceful rather than incomplete and on edge. If you find this feeling slipping away, close your eyes and refocus. When you relocate where this feeling is generated, work on spreading it throughout your body. At this point, you should return to your best.
- Breathe – When you start to physically feel the effects of stress it’s important to take a moment to focus on something consistent, your breathing. Pay attention to how it moves with a steady beat, synchronizing the movement of your body. When you take your attention away from the anxiety it allows your brain to re-activate your pre-frontal cortex, which is the part of the brain that allows you to think deliberately, express your personality, and make decisions. Focus on your breath to return to a place where confidence resides.
- Normalize Rejection – Everyone views rejection as a negative action, which implies that you’re not good enough for whatever the situation or whomever the person. If you don’t get asked back it’s not the end of the world, and may even be for the best. Maybe they’re rejecting you because they see your potential and the environment they’re offering isn’t appropriate for you to grow. Don’t view rejection as a judgment against you personally, but instead as a sign that it wasn’t the right job for you at this point in time.
- Humanize the Process – Right before going into an interview, it’s important you remember that the employer saw something in your resume or cover letter that they liked. It’s hard to realize this but they are on your side, they want to see who you are and what you can do so that they can find someone to fit into the team. Their goal isn’t to make you feel like you’re undeserving or not good enough, it’s simply to find the best person for that particular job.
The more you practice these techniques the more confident you’ll become, and the better you will interview.